BUILDING ON SAND.
If you see a girl that you like and you make up your mind to approach her for a relationship because she's exactly what you want in a woman; you've already lost the game before the game even started.
Going up to her, telling her how beautiful she is and how you'd be honored if she accepted you. Its the epitome of weakness.
That's not how you get and keep a girl.
Already you're chasing. Already she's the Prize. Already she has more power than you and should you date, the power difference will only increase.
BUILDING ON A ROCK.
The only way you start at the top with women, having all the advantage, holding all the cards, from the word go, is to do things the opposite way. The way that appears wrong but is actually the right way: instead of searching for a woman who fits your ideal, You should be a man who fits the woman's ideal. You should be what a woman wants. it must be about fulfilling the woman's expectation not yours. Desire must flow from the girl to you. It must not flow from you to the girl. Attraction must start in the heart of the female, not in your heart.
That's the secret to happiness. That's how you build a relationship on a foundation of rock: You make sure the woman loves you more than you love her. You must be the guy she feels she "can't live without". But She must not be the girl you feel you "cant live without". Be her fantasy don't Iet her be your fantasy. Let her chase the fantasy, but keep your feet firmly in reality.
That female who's "everything you ever dreamed of in a woman", that chick who's the "girl of your dreams", that one must be dealt with only on a lust level. As a short term fantasy. A pump and dump. Dick her, don't Heart her. Ejaculate and evacuate. Don't invest any emotion in her. No matter how beautiful. No matter how delicious.
You can not afford to love the girl that you want. You dare not chase the fantasy. Loving the girl your heart chooses is a luxury you just can't afford. Not if you value your happiness and peace of mind. If your goal is romantic success, your woman must be more invested in the romance than you. She must be the biggest shareholder in the company. She must be the one in love with you, not the other way round.
POWER DYNAMICS.
For the one who loves less is actually the one with all the power, holding all the cards and having all the advantage. The one who loves more, the one more committed, holds less of everything.
If a house is burning, the one who bought the most property cries the most. And so they're the one most concerned about preventing fires. In other words, the party most invested, most loving and most committed in the romance is the party that begs the most, compromises the most and sacrifices the most to make sure the romance stays on course.
The one who invests less of everything holds all the power for the simple reason that they can walk away any time. Never be involved in something you can't walk away from without losing gallons of tears. Women have been loving the right way since forever. When was the last time you saw a girl cry tears over a boy? Between men and women who commits suicide more over breakups? Of course the men. Because they don't know how to love properly.
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