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Having said all these, how can it be handled? Women in their very nature would not take responsibility for their action; they would rationalize the situation to absolve themselves of any guilt or take responsibility of their actions causing damage to a new relationship. That’s why when a woman is confronted by her new lover to cut all ties with her ex, she turns it to a fight.
DEMONSTRATE , DON'T EXPLAIN: If you’re in a relationship and your girlfriend is not scared of losing you, you either lost her, or didn’t have her in the first place. As a male, when you notice your woman having contact with her exs, don’t confront her and tell her to stop. Let her know codedly that you’re now in contact with other exes and potential new mates. Flirt with other women in her presence. If she doesn’t stop contacting her ex when you contact yours or flirt with other women, you either lost her, or didn’t have her before.
NEVER PLACE WOMEN (even your girlfriend) ON PEDESTALS: Now, think about this, when you place a woman on pedestal, you’re pacing her above you. You look up to her, and she looks down on you. She will continue to chase her former boyfriend that never placed her on pedestals. You placing her on pedestals makes her believe that she can get a better lover than you, she wouldn’t mind going back to her ex because by placing her on pedestals, you’ve made yourself low value.
DEVELOP YOURSELF (Become a greater Alpha): Another effective way to treat this emotional malady is to become a greater alpha than her ex was. You become the new standard. Becoming an alpha male is decision that every male must strive to actualize. When you’re at the peak of your masculinity, the table turns, women do the chasing. An important step to becoming an alpha male is to have a mission and chase it whole heartedly. A Woman, no matter who she is, must always be secondary to your mission.
NEXT HER: There’s no point trying to fix a broken woman. Trying to fix a broken woman is like trying to clear field as big as an acre of overgrown weeds using a nail cutter. It is never worth the effort. Even if you tenaciously fix her, she could still leave your for another man. Women cheat on men that donate their kidney for them, how much more a man that just helps her through emotional difficult times. Spend the time you would have used to fix an otherwise broken lady on a new and loving relationship.
CONCLUDING WORDS
I’ve had my fair share of this same problem of three girls still in love with their ex. The first two were bad experiences, really horrible ones. One having planned a date with me cancelled it because her ex came around and she wanted to see him. The other used me as surrogate boyfriend when she was time out with her ex. She always left me for her ex. Not once, not twice. Nobody should ask me why I kept accepting her. LOL. 😂.
Whereas, the last was totally under my control as I became a greater alpha to her ex. interestingly, when we went our separate ways, I moved on, and she moved back to her ex.
It is never worth the effort if you’re the only person trying to make a relationship work. Relationship is a two way street. As a man, your power lies in your ability to walk out of any relationship that isn’t making sense to you.
To the betterment of your relationship 🍻
Dawn Peters.
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